Wednesday, March 05, 2008

Moving on....

Once again I am amazed at how nasty and bitchy blogland can be. But then I guess whilst people with severe issues still frequent the fantasy land there will always be problems of some description.

I no longer find much appealing about the fantasy world of blogland. I have learnt the difference between fantasy and real. Charlie's affair taught me the difference, and I have come to realise that the people that become the third person in a marriage have great difficulty distinguishing the difference between fact and fiction, real and fantasy. Whichever way you look at it, they seem to live in a cloud of unreal thoughts and perceptions.

Today I came across another lie intimating that I was harassing the mistress. Check this out.....

"But Kate still makes trouble for Chardy a year after the affair when she will not have anything to do with Charlie and wants to move on"

So I guess the following emails and messages from Chardy herself really show that she is indeed moving on. Or is my perception lacking some what???

See for yourself........... (I'll even put it in pretty pink just like Chardy does!)

From: Mistress Chardy
Sent: Thursday, 24 January 2008 8:34 AM
To: Charlie the Cat

I can't believe you are taking a restraining order against me because I sent you a phone bill?

Is there anything else you can do to me?

Rip my heart out and stomp on it. Take unnecessary legal action against me. With that and my legal dramas with (Ex husband #2), and my broken heart, that is really unfair.

I have done nothing but defend you for the past 3 weeks to (friend) & co and try to make them understand your reasons for what you've done.

I love you Charlie, and I honestly believed that one day we would be together. That's why I have deliberately left you alone and not tried to contact you, and now this.

I will defend the order, because there is no need for one.

I can't believe you did that?

So by Chardy's own admission she is still in love with him and believes they will be together. Yep that is really moving on, isn't it?

And by her own admission she sent him a phone bill. Yep making more contact is really moving on, isn't it?

And then there is the Facebook message she sent me directly, even calling me by name.
Check this out......

Mistress Chardy

6:53pm Jan 2nd
Report Message


Well obviously Charlie is not going to give me verbal closure and I would suspect that is your wish. I understand that.

So I will gain my own closure by sending you this message.

As far as I am concerned, there is one person to blame for all of the pain that has been caused to both of our families. That person is Charlie.

When he asked me to send that facebook message about what happened on New Year two years ago, I knew it was juvenile, and even if it was true, I wish I hadn't done it because I knew that it would torture you. I don't like hurting people. It is not in my nature.

As we both know, Charlie has many unresolved issues. I truly hope that he will find happiness in his life and there would be no better place to find that than with you, his wife. I know he loves you very deeply, and I know that I was just a haven for the times that he felt unloved and unable to be himself.

I promise that I will leave you alone Kate. I hope that your family will heal and be happy. I am truly sorry for any pain that I have caused to you and your family.

On that note, can I please ask that we all conduct ourselves like adults and not play any more games on the internet whether it be blogland or facebook.

My children, (son) in particular, have suffered greatly by having Charlie back in our lives, no matter how briefly. (son) was the one who took Charlie's note from the letterbox today and read it accidentally and then tried to keep it from me. He is extremely distraught to say the least.

Happy New Year to all of you, and may you all find peace and happiness in your new home in the new year.


And I responded to her message with the following.......


8:14pm Jan 2nd

I am glad you have had your closure now so that means that no further contact to wither Charlie or myself is warranted.

I would love to gain my closure by responding to your mesasge Chardy, but I am at the point in healing where I do not see the point. All I will say is that we have very different opinions on numerous aspects of the last 2 years.

I would also like to make you aware that it is Charlie's choice not to have any further contact with you, not mine. It would have been very difficult for him to answer his phone to your calls this afternoon whilst swimming in the (public) Pool with his girls.

Rest assured Chardy that Charlie and I are not at all interested in playing stupid games. However, please be advised that I will take the necessary precautions to protect my family should you begin to cause problems.

I ask that you be sensible about the decision that Charlie has made and any further contact from you to either Charlie otr myself will be placed in the hands of our solicitor.

And that wasn't the last of it either because it WAS placed in the hands of a solicitor. Maybe that will be tomorrow's post......a copy of the letter I drafted outlining all the details of the 20 plus contacts in 15 minutes after I responded to her message.

But I guess in some bloggers eyes, particularly those that live in a fantasy world, I was the one that was harassing Chardy. Perhaps those people should open their eyes to the facts and not the lies that spew forth from someone who is immoral and willing to sleep with a married man, hoping to tear a family unit apart, someone that is not against hurting people, someone that does not think twice about telling lies.

And you know what???? I have SSSSSOOOOOO many juicy things to tell re the ongoing harassment that I was subjected to from Mistress Chardy.

SO I guess Katie will come out of retirement and tell the rest of the story.



Blogger akakarma said...

My God Kate!!! She is one obsessed ...whatever! I know obsession very well having a somewhat obsessive nature myself! But she is trying to spin a cloth out of stuff so insubstantial- it is so tenuous and stretched out that it is pathetic.
I'm also curious- are you and Charlie still together? Last post was rather bleak. And he has gone private with his blog.Well, anyway- it's good to see you are still up and feisty! Thanks for updating.

Wednesday, March 05, 2008 11:59:00 pm  
Blogger Karin's Korner said...

Welcome back my friend. I agree with akakarma, she is obsessed and I don't think that she will ever get over him until she hooks up with someone else. I also don't think that she was ever "in love" with was an obsession.

Thursday, March 06, 2008 7:24:00 am  

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