A New Chapter

Charlie's job has always caused problems in our marriage. He works horrendous hours and as a result our family life suffers.

We are given many opportunities that normal people are not given, but these opportunities do not make us happy. Whilst we certainly embrace these moments, it is the simple things that we miss.

This week Charlie decided he doesn't want to do it anymore. He went to his manager and advised him of where his head was pertaining to his position. His manager, of course, has absolutely freaked, and told Charlie to go home, take the week off and think about it.

Charlie thought about it and handed in his resignation, effective immediately.

There are many reasons why he has made this decision and he has convinced me that he has done it for all the right reasons.

He wants to sit up at night with me and watch TV series that he hasn't had the opportunity to..........because he can.

He wants to lay on the floor and drink red wine with me, listening to CD's..........because he can.

He wants to make love to me in the mornings, like he has done every morning this week..........because he can.

He wants to embrace the future and all it holds for us and our family..........because he can.

He wants to give me the opportunity to become the person that I am destined to be..........because he believes I deserve it.

He wants to step back and allow me to take on my new role with the same agency I have worked with for over 5 years, that involves lengthy periods of International travel..........because he believes I deserve it.

And so our journey continues but it has really only just started. I am sure there will be many twists and turns and rocky paths that we travel, but with no-one watching our journey from afar we are free to take whichever path we choose.

All inroads to our lives are now sealed off from prying eyes. There is no email address known to the mistress that remains active. There is no phone number known to the mistress that remains active. There is no avenue of communication that remains open to the mistress.

I guess it has become a lost opportunity and we are protected now from anything that is thrown our way.

But the new chapter has already started and we are both extremely excited for what lays ahead and we are embracing every opportunity our new life brings.

So it is time to say a final goodbye because I am leaving behind a chapter in my life when I wished the sun didn't come up, but I am so glad that it did.

I have learnt so much during the last two years of my life, and I am a better person for it. I have grown within and take with me valuable lessons about who I am.

And for the second time this year I am hand delivering a goodbye letter sealed in a pretty purple envelope, only this time I will seal it with a kiss.

I missed my court date....OOPS!

Taken from Charlie's blog last year.........

The Karma Train said...
This post could almost make a person sad.

No doubt you are suffering.

Possibly what you and and your wife (lets call you dumb and dumber) should have done was keep it to yourselves.

It's not as though a blind eye wasn't turned to many of your ridiculous activities.

e.g. the bathroom photo (exhibit L - Supreme Court of Australia - Mistress V Dumber 02/05/2008)

Keep pushing buttons....and one day either the lift door will open or maybe something will explode????

Do you want to know who I am? More to the point, let me TELL you who WE are, we deliberately don't hide our IP this time.

We are four friends of the person who's life you almost ruined. You have met 2 of us....in fact one of us drove you to the airport!

We've got news for you Mr Cat....the Karma Train is coming. You can't treat people the way you do and just walk away leaving the destruction behind you without one day suffering some consequences.

Thu Jul 26, 07:32:00 PM 2007

Well it appears it is not just Jeff that missed his court date. I did too.

Oh but hang on! I didn't get served with any papers!!!!!!

I wonder if they got lost in the mail???

What exactly is Personal Information?

So I am being accused of having dangerous personal information on my blog that apparently identifies my husband's Ex mistress.

Well, JQ, just for you, here we go......... I recently moved house.

I used to live at Number 6 but now reside at Number 22.

So do you now know where I live? You have no idea! And every other reader has no idea either!

That is SSSSSSSSOOOOOOOOOO personal isn't it?

And I'll give you another little clue JQ as to where I live...... one of the pics above is my bathroom.

Why don't you send me a postcard JQ? I'll be checking my letterbox everyday!

Remember Sammy D?

Do you remember Sammy D that used to read our blogs and comment?

I was going through my inbox and found an email she sent me.

It struck several nerves........read it yourself.


From: Samantha Donnelly [mailto:(sammyd)@gmail.com]
Sent: Tuesday, 13 February 2007 9:21 PM
To: Kate and Charlie
Subject: A Goodbye Message

(Kate and Charlie)

I have been silently watching the goings on in blogland. I'm sure you are not surprised that I haven't left a comment. I hate disharmony.

I don't share too much about myself. I am pretty much a private person. But this is what I wanted to share with you today in my goodbye message.

(Charlie), I found your blog when searching for 'human frailty' I think it was. Your animated way of writing also reminded me of my husband Michael.

Michael was different. He was beautiful. We were childhood sweethearts, and if I could have just curled my body around him like a cocoon and felt his every movement and shared his every breath, then I would have. It was a rollercoaster from the minute we met. When things were going well, we were angels in heaven and floating on clouds. When things were bad, it was hell. Suicide attempts, constant accusations of my infidelity, jealousy that was absolutely and totally suffocating.

My children are my life. I loved Michael so much, and I wanted our children so badly. I wanted a part of Michael, and a part of me blended with our love to make these special little people that would become our family. When I was pregnant with Jamie, Michael would go from doting 'father to be' at one moment to something that resembled a jealous jilted lover at others. In exasperation one day I said to Michael that we should just go and live on a deserted island so there would be nobody to be jealous of. I will never forget the way he grabbed my face in his hands, and his blue eyes looked so glazed and scary as he told me that he would be jealous of the sand that massaged my toes, and the sun that bathed my skin.

It's a long story and something that my 'human frailty' makes it impossible for me to share in it's entirety in one sitting. Michael took his life on Christams Day 2 years ago.

My chilsren are my life. They are a little Michael and a little me. We didn't get it right. But that doesn't mean they can't. I always want to remain close to my children as they grow, and as they become older I want to be aware enough to know when to give them space, when to hold their hand, when to listen and when it's time to be firm with some good old home truths. I brought these little darlin's into this world, and it's my job to give them the life skills to deal with it or at least point them in the right direction. If they fuck up, well good, because by then I hope they'll know how to fix their fuck ups, and if that's with or without my help. That's fine too.

I saw (Kate's son)'s comments on your blog Charlie. They were so sad for me to read. I bawled my eyes out. (Kate), I saw the fedup comment that you deleted. You thanked JD and then seemed surprised that your son had commented on the blog. I am in no position to judge either of you. So all I want to say in closing is, love your children and please remember how short and how precious life can be, and the little ones you both made and brought into this world need to come first.

I'm not going to read your blogs anymore. Don't take it personally. These things happen for a reason.

Cheers,

Samantha

Do you not feel for this woman? My heart went out to her and I responded with the following email:


From:Kate
Sent: Tuesday, 13 February 2007 10:16 PM
To: 'Samantha Donnelly'
Subject: RE: A Goodbye Message

Sammy,

I am sitting here in tears. You have really struck a raw nerve in me, not just for telling your story, but because it is so central in many ways to me and my situation.

I have been struggling in blogland myself the last few weeks, hence my inability to post on my blog.

I have made the decision to close my blog down again because I just cannot handle the nastiness from the mistress and her ‘friends’. I have asked (Charlie) to do the same but he has not decided what to do. I want him to start invite only or even a new address. I even purchased a gorgeous journal for him to write in but for Mr Egotistical it does not have the same meaning because he doesn’t have his precious fucking audience. (Do you hear my resentment?)

Today’s happenings on (Charlie)’s blog have also taken its toll on me. The nastiness that has been flying around is so unnecessary. I didn’t delete the comment Sammy. (Charlie) did because he wrote it not realising it was under (my son's) log in. I am not at all happy with (Charlie) for that post either. It has caused a lot of disharmony between us. He just does not get where I am coming from when I ask him to defend me. Wouldn’t you do that if you truly loved someone Sammy? (Charlie) just does not get it. We had a humdinger of an argument Sunday night which is why he wrote this post.

I KNOW you get what I am saying because the way you have commented to him in the past indicates that you want to see the emotion as well. I don’t want words on a sheet of paper. I want to feel what he is saying, because right now I don’t believe what he tells me. Hell he has lied to me for so long , why on earth would I believe him now?

I now understand why you have been a supporter of the cat, if he reminds you of Michael. I feel that you and I have a lot in common and hence you feel my pain as if it were your own and you see and feel exactly what I do.
You summed my marriage up Sammy with “When things were going well, we were angels in heaven and floating on clouds. When things were bad, it was hell”.

And this was my previous relationship “constant accusations of my infidelity, jealousy that was absolutely and totally suffocating. “

I don’t want to live in hell anymore and I really do not know that (Charlie) can make me float on clouds anymore. I don’t want to fight to have my needs filled. I don’t want to have to argue with my husband for him to realise what it is that he is or isn’t doing.

Which leads me to my kids. My kids are my world. They are also (Charlie)’s world. He is a doting father and loves his little girls with all of his heart. I don’t think we can get it right Sammy, but I am terrified that either way my kids are going ot suffer for it.

I so would love to give you the biggest hug right now. I am sure you really need it. I know I need one.

Please stay in touch Sammy and when you come over in April I would still love to meet you.

Kate


Do you remember Sammy D?

Moving on....

Once again I am amazed at how nasty and bitchy blogland can be. But then I guess whilst people with severe issues still frequent the fantasy land there will always be problems of some description.

I no longer find much appealing about the fantasy world of blogland. I have learnt the difference between fantasy and real. Charlie's affair taught me the difference, and I have come to realise that the people that become the third person in a marriage have great difficulty distinguishing the difference between fact and fiction, real and fantasy. Whichever way you look at it, they seem to live in a cloud of unreal thoughts and perceptions.

Today I came across another lie intimating that I was harassing the mistress. Check this out.....

"But Kate still makes trouble for Chardy a year after the affair when she will not have anything to do with Charlie and wants to move on"

So I guess the following emails and messages from Chardy herself really show that she is indeed moving on. Or is my perception lacking some what???

See for yourself........... (I'll even put it in pretty pink just like Chardy does!)

From: Mistress Chardy
Sent: Thursday, 24 January 2008 8:34 AM
To: Charlie the Cat
Subject:

I can't believe you are taking a restraining order against me because I sent you a phone bill?

Is there anything else you can do to me?

Rip my heart out and stomp on it. Take unnecessary legal action against me. With that and my legal dramas with (Ex husband #2), and my broken heart, that is really unfair.

I have done nothing but defend you for the past 3 weeks to (friend) & co and try to make them understand your reasons for what you've done.

I love you Charlie, and I honestly believed that one day we would be together. That's why I have deliberately left you alone and not tried to contact you, and now this.

I will defend the order, because there is no need for one.

I can't believe you did that?

So by Chardy's own admission she is still in love with him and believes they will be together. Yep that is really moving on, isn't it?

And by her own admission she sent him a phone bill. Yep making more contact is really moving on, isn't it?

And then there is the Facebook message she sent me directly, even calling me by name.
Check this out......

Mistress Chardy

6:53pm Jan 2nd
Report Message

Kate,

Well obviously Charlie is not going to give me verbal closure and I would suspect that is your wish. I understand that.

So I will gain my own closure by sending you this message.

As far as I am concerned, there is one person to blame for all of the pain that has been caused to both of our families. That person is Charlie.

When he asked me to send that facebook message about what happened on New Year two years ago, I knew it was juvenile, and even if it was true, I wish I hadn't done it because I knew that it would torture you. I don't like hurting people. It is not in my nature.

As we both know, Charlie has many unresolved issues. I truly hope that he will find happiness in his life and there would be no better place to find that than with you, his wife. I know he loves you very deeply, and I know that I was just a haven for the times that he felt unloved and unable to be himself.

I promise that I will leave you alone Kate. I hope that your family will heal and be happy. I am truly sorry for any pain that I have caused to you and your family.

On that note, can I please ask that we all conduct ourselves like adults and not play any more games on the internet whether it be blogland or facebook.

My children, (son) in particular, have suffered greatly by having Charlie back in our lives, no matter how briefly. (son) was the one who took Charlie's note from the letterbox today and read it accidentally and then tried to keep it from me. He is extremely distraught to say the least.

Happy New Year to all of you, and may you all find peace and happiness in your new home in the new year.

Chardy

And I responded to her message with the following.......

Kate

8:14pm Jan 2nd

I am glad you have had your closure now so that means that no further contact to wither Charlie or myself is warranted.

I would love to gain my closure by responding to your mesasge Chardy, but I am at the point in healing where I do not see the point. All I will say is that we have very different opinions on numerous aspects of the last 2 years.

I would also like to make you aware that it is Charlie's choice not to have any further contact with you, not mine. It would have been very difficult for him to answer his phone to your calls this afternoon whilst swimming in the (public) Pool with his girls.

Rest assured Chardy that Charlie and I are not at all interested in playing stupid games. However, please be advised that I will take the necessary precautions to protect my family should you begin to cause problems.

I ask that you be sensible about the decision that Charlie has made and any further contact from you to either Charlie otr myself will be placed in the hands of our solicitor.


And that wasn't the last of it either because it WAS placed in the hands of a solicitor. Maybe that will be tomorrow's post......a copy of the letter I drafted outlining all the details of the 20 plus contacts in 15 minutes after I responded to her message.

But I guess in some bloggers eyes, particularly those that live in a fantasy world, I was the one that was harassing Chardy. Perhaps those people should open their eyes to the facts and not the lies that spew forth from someone who is immoral and willing to sleep with a married man, hoping to tear a family unit apart, someone that is not against hurting people, someone that does not think twice about telling lies.

And you know what???? I have SSSSSOOOOOO many juicy things to tell re the ongoing harassment that I was subjected to from Mistress Chardy.

SO I guess Katie will come out of retirement and tell the rest of the story.

STAY TUNED!!!!

Laughing my fucking ass off!

I have had the biggest laugh today!

Well I ran into someone today that I have known for a number of years. I don't really know her all that well but when we see each other we chat and get on really well.

She was aware of some of the stuff that has been going on with regard to my marriage during the last 18months but not a great deal of detail. But today she told me something that made me grin from ear to ear.

Remember when Charlie went interstate and his mistress accompanied him for all of 24 hours?
She told me that she was on the same flight as Charlie and his mistress that day. She told me that she saw him buy her a drink in the lounge area and then board the plane and sit together. She said they were not at all affectionate or the like and she assumed that she was one of Charlie's work colleagues.

I then told her that this female person was Charlie's mistress. Her jaw dropped and her facial expression was pure gold. I asked her what the problem was and after a few seconds she laughed a little and told me.

She went on to say that "she is absolutely nothing to look at, rather ugly actually" and she also said "I don't know what he saw in her when comparing her to you".

I nearly pissed myself! Don't really know why I was so shocked because even Charlie told me she was nothing to look at. His words were "ordinary head and ordinary head job too!"

HaHaHaHa

Stealing my Sunshine

"We have no more right to put our discordant states of mind into the lives of those around us and rob them of their sunshine and brightness than we have to enter their houses and steal their silverware."

Charles Swindoll

The Mistress may have stolen my silverware, but I had already realised there were pieces missing.

I noticed the pieces that remained in the beautifully carved wooden canteen needed a polish.

And the Mistress gave me the polishing cloth.